How do I write a thank you note?

With a thank you note we can thank the people who have supported and accompanied us in the mourning process. Thank you notes are not only an expression of our gratitude, but also a significant step in the grieving process. They help us share the pain and maintain a connection with those who understand and share our grief.

The Essential Elements of a Thank You Note

Each thank you note is unique as it reflects the personal feelings and experiences of the writer. However, there are several central elements that should be included in a thank you note:

Personal Address

A direct and personal address helps establish a connection. This can be the name of the person or a general address to a group of people who have helped.

Expression of Gratitude

This is the core of the thank you note. Here you express your gratitude for the help and support you received during the mourning period.

Specific Mention of Help or Support

If possible, mention specifically how the person or group helped you. This can be emotional support, practical help, or even financial assistance.

A Personal Touch or Memory

A personal touch can make your thank you note particularly warm and impressive. This can be a special memory or an anecdote that highlights the support or the relationship with the deceased.

Avoid Common Mistakes

It is important to avoid certain pitfalls during the writing process. Here are some common mistakes that you should avoid:

Impersonal Messages

Your thank you note should be as personal as possible. Avoid generic phrases and instead try to focus on the specific support and the special relationship with the person or group.

Forgetting to Thank Everyone

In grief and stress, you may forget someone. Make a list of all the people you want to thank before you start writing to make sure that nobody is forgotten.

Waiting Too Long

While there is no strict deadline for sending a thank you note, it should be timely. A few weeks after the funeral or memorial service is a reasonable time.

Distribution of Your Thank Yous

There are several ways to distribute your thank you notes. You can send traditional thank you cards, send emails, or create and share an online thank you. The form of distribution depends on your personal preference, the number of recipients, and also the degree of formality you desire.

Thank You Cards

They are a traditional and formal way to express thanks. They can be purchased or designed yourself and offer space for a personal handwritten message.


For a larger number of recipients or a less formal thank you, an email may be suitable. It also offers the opportunity to attach a photo or a digital card.

Online Thank You

With our configurator, you can design a stylish online thank you note yourself and distribute it through various channels. This option offers a lot of flexibility and allows your thank you to be seen and shared by a larger circle. You will also find many useful wording aids and text examples.

Formulation Aids / Text Examples for Copying

Remember that a compelling acknowledgment should be personal. Copied phrases often feel impersonal, so you should consider these texts merely as a foundation or inspiration!

We are deeply grateful for the overwhelming wave of affection and support in this time of farewell. It is comforting to see how much our beloved deceased was appreciated in life.
In the moments of farewell, we found comfort in the sympathy and love that was extended to us. Thank you very much to everyone who stood by us in this difficult time.
Our thanks go to all relatives, friends, and acquaintances for their loving words, flowers, and support that have reached us in this time of mourning.
The many signs of sympathy and support have shown us that we are not alone in our grief. We are deeply grateful to all who have expressed their sympathy.
The flood of sympathy and compassion in the time after the loss of our loved one has deeply touched and supported us. We thank each and every one for their thoughts and prayers.
It warms our hearts to realize how beloved and appreciated our deceased was. Thank you for all the evidence of love and friendship in these difficult hours.
We would like to thank everyone who was connected with us in silent mourning and gave us the strength to cope with the loss through their sympathy.
In this time of farewell and mourning, we have experienced much comfort and support. Thank you to everyone who was with us in thought and showed us their love.
Thank you very much to all who have taken leave with us and stood by us through their sympathy and support.
We would like to express our deep gratitude for the sympathy and the many gestures of love that we have experienced after the loss of our loved one.
The connectedness and sympathy that we have felt in these days of farewell were overwhelming. Our heartfelt thanks go to all who have shared their support and compassion.
The memory of the time spent with our deceased is a precious treasure for which we are grateful. We thank everyone who helps us keep these memories alive.
We appreciate every gesture of sympathy and every act of kindness that have brought light to us in these dark hours. Thank you for your support and compassion.

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