Writing a Funeral Card - With Tips and Examples

What Is a Sympathy Card?

A sympathy or condolence card is a form of condolence writing, with which one expresses condolences to the family of the deceased. Often, the front shows a mourning symbol such as a cross and bears a mourning saying, e.g., “In silent remembrance.” The inside pages are free for personal words of condolence. Stylish folding cards, often in black and white, are also appropriate as long as they do not have a black border, as this is reserved specifically for obituary notices.

When Is the Right Time for the Sympathy Card?

The right time to send a sympathy card is usually shortly after you learn about the death. Ideally within the first two weeks – this way, you express your condolences promptly and respectfully.

Sample Texts / Formulation Aids for Your Sympathy Card or Condolence Card

Examples of Opening Sentences

Writing the first lines of a sympathy card is often a big challenge. A personal approach, where you describe your first feelings upon receiving the sad news, is often a good start. Mention how and by whom you learned of the loss and share your emotional reaction. This makes the introduction authentic and empathetic.

• With a heavy heart, I had to receive the news of the loss of your beloved [relationship, e.g., "father," "brother"]. In this dark hour, I want to express my deepest condolences to you.
• The news of the passing of your dear [relationship, e.g., "mother," "sister"] has deeply shaken me. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
• It is difficult for me to find the right words to express how sorry I am to hear of the loss of [name of the deceased]. Please know that my thoughts are with you.
• Heaven has gained another star, but here on earth, [name of the deceased] will be sorely missed. My sincere condolences to you and your loved ones.
• In this time of mourning, I want to express my silent condolences to you. The loss of [name of the deceased] leaves a gap that is hard to fill.
• Words cannot lessen the pain of losing [name of the deceased], but may they offer comfort and show that my thoughts are with you.
• With deep sorrow, I have learned of the passing of [name of the deceased]. In this difficult time, I stand by you with all my strength.
• The news of [name of the deceased]'s death deeply touched me. I want to express my heartfelt condolences to you and wish you strength for the coming days.
• It is always too soon to lose a loved one. I hope you find comfort in the memories that are now more precious than ever.
• In silent mourning, I sympathize with the loss of [name of the deceased]. May time help you turn pain into loving memory.

Personal Reference, Memories

By sharing personal anecdotes and memories in your sympathy card, such as how you knew the deceased and what special moments you shared, you add a personal touch to your condolences. Talk about the qualities you particularly liked. Recall moments when the deceased enriched your life.

• His/her dedication to our community in the club was admirable. His/her absence leaves a large gap that we can hardly fill.
• The memories of shared moments, whether during walks or deep conversations, I will always treasure in my heart.
• Our hikes and outings were more than just passing time; they were moments of friendship and mutual respect. It hurts to know that these times are over.
• [First name]'s kind soul and open personality made our office a brighter place. His/her absence will be deeply felt.
• His/her tireless commitment to social justice was not only inspiring but also contagious. Without [first name], our mission will be different.
• The way [first name] was there for others, always with a listening ear and a comforting word, will remain unforgettable.
• [Name] remains in our hearts as someone who shared his/her life with us with love and compassion.
• With [first name]'s positive energy and willingness to have fun, our meetings were always something special. We will miss this joy.
• [First name] was more than a friend; he/she was a gift to life. I am infinitely grateful for his/her friendship.
• As a generous soul and peaceful person, [name] showed us what true wealth means. In loving memory, we will honor his/her memory.

Condolences and Sympathy

• In these hours of deep farewell sorrow, I want to assure you that my thoughts and sympathy are firmly with you.
• We feel closely connected to you during this time of mourning and want to express our deepest sympathy.
• Your pain deeply touches me, and I want to say that you are not alone during these dark days.
• My/Our sincere sympathy accompanies you through the difficult moments of farewell.
• In deep connection, we share your grief and stand by you during this time.
• The loss of [name] makes me/us feel in mourning with you. Together we bear this pain.
• Our hearts are heavy at the thought of your loss, and in deep sympathy, we are with you.
• In thoughts, we embrace you to bring some comfort to the pain of the immeasurable loss.
• For the loss of [name], I want to express my deepest condolences and offer my support during this difficult time.
• We stand together in mourning for [name] and want to express our deepest connection and sympathy.

Offering Support to Relatives

Especially older or single-living persons can feel overwhelmed by the loss and the associated challenges. Whether it is about everyday tasks or simply offering a listening ear and being present – offer your help.

• During this difficult time, I want to offer you my constant readiness to help. Whether you need someone to listen, support in everyday life, or simply share silence – I am here for you.
• Please never forget that you are not alone. I stand by you with an open heart and helping hands whenever you need me. Do not hesitate to call me, no matter the time.
• Your grief is also my grief. I offer you my unconditional support – whether it is for everyday tasks or if you just need a shoulder to lean on.
• I am just a call away to stand by you during this challenging time. Whether it is practical help or a conversation that might bring you some comfort – do not hesitate to contact me.
• It is a deep concern of mine to assure you that I will regularly check on you and inquire about your needs. During this time of loss, I want to offer you my help and compassion in every possible way.

Wishes for the Future and Farewell Greeting

At the end of your sympathy card, wish the bereaved strength and confidence for the coming time. It is important to offer comfort while remaining sensitive, without minimizing the grief with phrases like "life goes on."

• During this difficult time, I wish you much strength and hope.
• May you find comfort in the memories that connect you.
• We hope that the confidence and strength of beautiful moments will carry you through this time.
• Remember the shared times; they may give you strength and guide the way to the future.
• Take the time to grieve to be able to look forward with new strength.
• May the memory of shared experiences offer you comfort and courage for what is to come.
• Our thoughts are with you and your family, accompanied by wishes for strength and confidence.

Further Links

• Article: Tips for Writing a Letter of Condolence